Ever tried having someone get right up in your face when they talk to you? So close that you get showered with saliva? When we are out networking, we usually find ourselves in a loud environment as people try to talk louder than the others to be heard. This results in a roar that makes regular conversation difficult.
The tendency is that people would try to get very close to other people so they can be heard. This can result in being too close to another person sometimes making them very uncomfortable. It would even be more comfortable if one person had consumed alcohol and the other had not.
Each of us has our own comfort zone boundary. This is a space around us that when another person enters we begin to feel uncomfortable. A very good way to relate this is to think if you ever had an argument with someone and he got in your face and even tried to point his finger near your face. Do you recall how it made you fee? This can usually make a person even angrier.
In the networking world, you should maintain a distance from the people you talk to. This distance should be about an arm’s length. This is because the comfort boundary of most people is about the length of an arm. If you find yourself getting very close to someone in conversation, imagine if you raised your arm and that is the distance that you should be from the other person. If they move closer to you in the course of conversation, it is acceptable to them to be closer. So you can continue the conversation at that distance.
You’ll know if you are standing too close to someone if he moves back while you talk to him. If you observe this, then don’t move any closer. They will stop when they reach the distance that they are comfortable with. If they turn and walk away of course it is time to find someone else to talk to.
To be most effective in your attempts to build relationships with others, it is most important to keep these things in mind. Keep in mind that if a person is not engaged in the conversation, it wouldn’t matter what you are saying. Keeping boundaries help a lot in networking.